The world tells us that the way to know whether two people are "right for each other" is to measure the white-hot physical attraction between the two, combined with the idea of "chemistry" on steroids — their ability to effortlessly have day-long conversations anytime about anything, punctuated by the quick, witty exchanges found mostly in edgy independent comedies.
In our culture — and in many churches — "attraction," whether purely physical or "chemistry-related," is considered the foundational way to evaluate a potential marriage relationship.
Outward beauty is fleeting, but men and women whose judgment is impaired by sin place undue importance on it. “The LORD does not look at the things man looks at.This is not to say that physical attraction is the most important aspect to be considered when looking for a husband or wife.For one thing, beauty should not be defined by the world.The most obvious example in Scripture is Jesus, who “had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him” (Isaiah 53:2).
Yet the beauty of His grace, as the incarnate Son of God, shone forth from within Him to all who truly knew Him.Let's examine two problems with the "attraction-as-foundation" approach to dating and marriage — one theological, one practical — and then look at the idea of biblical attraction. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.